I remember this day so clearly….I was 17 trying on wedding dresses. I think back and I’m like “Wow, I was such a baby.”
I ended up getting married in a court house on July 20th, 2015. I turned 18 July 30th. I remember my mom telling me I should wait. I remember her being supportive to an extent but I think as a parent she was super concerned it wouldn’t last because we were so young. I remember telling her that if she didn’t approve that we would run off to Alabama when I turn 18 and get married. Wow wasn’t I just a pleasant bundle of sunshine at 17. LOL. Today my mom can see how truly happy J and I are and tells me so much how proud she is of us. I literally have to stop her sometimes on bragging on Jarrett. My family loves him. However, I truly understand her concerns as I’ve gotten older. I cannot believe tomorrow marks 4 years of marriage. I turn 22 in 11 days. I still feel like a baby but it’s a little different. Jarrett and I have grown so much in the last 4 years. I’m not going to lie, there were times where I felt like “What the heck are we doing? We don’t know anything about marriage.” However, no matter your age, I feel like you have to feel like that at some point. Jarrett and I always laugh because we literally probably wouldn’t be where we are in our marriage if it wasn’t for the military. We moved to New Mexico literally 10 days after our court house wedding. We knew no one but each other and I think that is the best thing that could have happened. Instead of relying on friends and family when we had a hiccup we HAD to fix it between us. I had friends I could call but truthfully it’s not like I could just leave and go to a friends house when we had a hiccup. We had no one but each other and I think that’s how it should be. I will NEVER say our marriage is perfect nor act like it is but my biggest advice in marriage at any age is to rely on God and each other. Do not bring other people into your marriage. I know that sounds like I’m saying to hide the fact you argue and that is not what I am saying. I’ll be the first to say J and I argue just like anyone else. What I am saying is learn to fix it between you both instead of bringing your friends/family into your problems because truthfully you are the only 2 people in your marriage. I also believe A HUGE impact on your marriage is your relationship with God. I remember feeling like a year into our marriage, something was just missing from my life. God had always been apart of my life but I was missing a church family here in New Mexico. I started attending a church while J was deployed and when I tell you it took everything I had to get J to go to church with me when he got back…I mean everything. He believed in God but was super uncomfortable with the idea of going to this church not knowing anyone. Fast forward to now, J is always the one that tells me to get up and go to church.. I have seen Christ grow in this man for the past 2 years and it is such an amazing thing. He is even now the person to invite his friends to church and I have to say that is probably the most attractive thing in the world.
I think now a days we see so many young couples getting married and getting divorced…no judgment here but I want you to know that it is 100% possible to get married young and be happy together 4 years later if you are both working together. Jarrett and I challenge each other to be the best people we can be and I am so happy I found my soulmate at 17. I had someone tell me how content J and I look together because we can be out and about and stay content with talking to each other. I think being away from friends and family really showed us how much we needed each other. He is my best friend and the first person I tell anything to. He definitely gets on my nerves probably 14 times a day but that’s life. Learning to grow in our marriage hasn’t always been easy but everyday I remember how worth it is to be someone that encourages me to be my best self, doesn’t hold me back, and helps me to further my relationship with God.
I have also had a lot of questions on why I celebrate two wedding dates. Jarrett hated this until I explained my reasoning to him. I do not celebrate two because I want presents for both. I do not even care about going out on either of them, just as long as J and I are together.
July 20th- The day J and I got married in Starkville, MS court house. This is such an important date to me because it’s the day Jarrett and I committed to each other forever in front of God and most of our immediate family and a few friends. I still remember the judge asked Jarrett twice to say “I do” and he never asked me so Jarrett and I have an ongoing joke that we aren’t really married. I will never forget this day and all the support my family and friends showed me on this day.
September 12th- We had a wedding and reception in Starkville, MS. We celebrated our love in front of everyone we love. Our friends and family were able to see our commitment to each other and celebrate a day with us that we will remember forever.
Therefore, however annoying it is, I will always celebrate two wedding anniversaries because they both have significant meaning in my life.