Getting Married Young (And What You Should Know)

I remember this day so clearly….I was 17 trying on wedding dresses. I think back and I’m like “Wow, I was such a baby.”

I ended up getting married in a court house on July 20th, 2015. I turned 18 July 30th. I remember my mom telling me I should wait. I remember her being supportive to an extent but I think as a parent she was super concerned it wouldn’t last because we were so young. I remember telling her that if she didn’t approve that we would run off to Alabama when I turn 18 and get married. Wow wasn’t I just a pleasant bundle of sunshine at 17. LOL. Today my mom can see how truly happy J and I are and tells me so much how proud she is of us. I literally have to stop her sometimes on bragging on Jarrett. My family loves him. However, I truly understand her concerns as I’ve gotten older. I cannot believe tomorrow marks 4 years of marriage. I turn 22 in 11 days. I still feel like a baby but it’s a little different. Jarrett and I have grown so much in the last 4 years. I’m not going to lie, there were times where I felt like “What the heck are we doing? We don’t know anything about marriage.” However, no matter your age, I feel like you have to feel like that at some point. Jarrett and I always laugh because we literally probably wouldn’t be where we are in our marriage if it wasn’t for the military. We moved to New Mexico literally 10 days after our court house wedding. We knew no one but each other and I think that is the best thing that could have happened. Instead of relying on friends and family when we had a hiccup we HAD to fix it between us. I had friends I could call but truthfully it’s not like I could just leave and go to a friends house when we had a hiccup. We had no one but each other and I think that’s how it should be. I will NEVER say our marriage is perfect nor act like it is but my biggest advice in marriage at any age is to rely on God and each other. Do not bring other people into your marriage. I know that sounds like I’m saying to hide the fact you argue and that is not what I am saying. I’ll be the first to say J and I argue just like anyone else. What I am saying is learn to fix it between you both instead of bringing your friends/family into your problems because truthfully you are the only 2 people in your marriage. I also believe A HUGE impact on your marriage is your relationship with God. I remember feeling like a year into our marriage, something was just missing from my life. God had always been apart of my life but I was missing a church family here in New Mexico. I started attending a church while J was deployed and when I tell you it took everything I had to get J to go to church with me when he got back…I mean everything. He believed in God but was super uncomfortable with the idea of going to this church not knowing anyone. Fast forward to now, J is always the one that tells me to get up and go to church.. I have seen Christ grow in this man for the past 2 years and it is such an amazing thing. He is even now the person to invite his friends to church and I have to say that is probably the most attractive thing in the world.

I think now a days we see so many young couples getting married and getting divorced…no judgment here but I want you to know that it is 100% possible to get married young and be happy together 4 years later if you are both working together. Jarrett and I challenge each other to be the best people we can be and I am so happy I found my soulmate at 17. I had someone tell me how content J and I look together because we can be out and about and stay content with talking to each other. I think being away from friends and family really showed us how much we needed each other. He is my best friend and the first person I tell anything to. He definitely gets on my nerves probably 14 times a day but that’s life. Learning to grow in our marriage hasn’t always been easy but everyday I remember how worth it is to be someone that encourages me to be my best self, doesn’t hold me back, and helps me to further my relationship with God.

I have also had a lot of questions on why I celebrate two wedding dates. Jarrett hated this until I explained my reasoning to him. I do not celebrate two because I want presents for both. I do not even care about going out on either of them, just as long as J and I are together.

July 20th- The day J and I got married in Starkville, MS court house. This is such an important date to me because it’s the day Jarrett and I committed to each other forever in front of God and most of our immediate family and a few friends. I still remember the judge asked Jarrett twice to say “I do” and he never asked me so Jarrett and I have an ongoing joke that we aren’t really married. I will never forget this day and all the support my family and friends showed me on this day.

September 12th- We had a wedding and reception in Starkville, MS. We celebrated our love in front of everyone we love. Our friends and family were able to see our commitment to each other and celebrate a day with us that we will remember forever.

Therefore, however annoying it is, I will always celebrate two wedding anniversaries because they both have significant meaning in my life.

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Hypothyroidism Weight-loss

This blog post took A LOT for me to write. I just kept going back and forth with it until I finally decided to sit down and write it. Still unsure if I’ll publish it, but I guess if you are reading it then I took the plunge. 

Let’s rewind to my senior year, 2015. I had gained 30lbs + in months. I chalked it up to my birth control and never thought more of it. You will see later how this is relevant. I got the birth control removed and never really could lose weight but I also didn’t gain a ton. I just always felt bloated.

Well, 2017 came and J was deployed and I tried so hard to lose weight and couldn’t. I just couldn’t. I would eat healthy in an 80/20 fashion and only would lose 5-10lbs over a 6 month period. At the time, I was following a workout program my friend used.

When J got back, I fell back into some bad eating habits but truthfully not too bad. I always have loved healthy food. I would rather have a salad then a burger, however the weight just started piling on. I am in no shape or form saying I was overweight, however, I was unhealthy and unhappy. 

Therefore January 2019 came around and I think Jarrett got tired of me complaining constantly about being “fat” (again I know I wasn’t fat, but I felt disgusted with myself and overall was unhappy) and if you know J, he’s brutally honest. Well, J told me flat out that I needed to either do something about it or stop complaining. This hit me hard. Was I complaining and really not trying? 

Well in about 3 months, I was down 15lbs. I cut out every “bad” food I could think of and Starbucks. I limited myself to eating a certain amount of calories a day and I wouldn’t budge. I would do intermittent fasting some days which actually helped me a lot with bloating. I was probably working harder than most people have to work to lose weight and it still was difficult to get the weight off. I felt like giving up so many times because I felt like I was working my butt off and barely seeing results.

I’m just going to be brutally honest with y’all and tell you I didn’t really have a “cheat” meal until I was down 15lbs. I knew it would tempt me too much. I had Starbucks on clinical days though and that was a treat for me once or twice a week. 

At this point, I was running 3 miles a day or doing an hour of cardio everyday. I actually enjoy cardio therefore, this was not torture to me. 

Well 3 months in, I felt so blah. Really there is no other word for it but “blah,” you would think I would feel good and happy being 15 lbs lighter right? Well, I went to the doctor and he wanted to tell me I was depressed. In no reality would I say depression is not real, I know it’s real, I’ve felt it. However, I KNEW I wasn’t depressed. Like I said, I’ve felt it, I just KNEW that wasn’t it. I asked the doctor to please run all my labs. He assured me everything was 99.9% going to come back normal….

A few days later, I get a call saying everything in fact I was not 100% fine. My TSH level was 16.4 and the normal range is 0.4-4. That is 4 times the normal.  If you do not know much about hypothyroidism, it has a lot of impact on your emotions, how you feel, your weight, and etc. I got diagnosed with hypothyroidism and was put on levothyroxine (Synthroid). They also may need to remove my thyroid because of possible cysts, that’s a longer story but I’ll keep you updated about that. Praying that is not the case. I had an ultrasound yesterday and will know the results soon.

My doctor basically told me right then that I would always have a problem with losing weight. In fact, he told me the medicine isn’t even linked to weight loss. Like what?? I though this was going to fix all my problems.  He said I would always have to work harder because my metabolism is slower. Really??? There still isn’t a magic pill? However, instead of getting upset and feeling like there was nothing to do, I took this as a challenge. Yes, I have to work harder and eat better than most people to see a difference but it’s possible. I cannot say enough how hard I have worked. The diagnosis and medication didn’t cure me, but it showed me that if I wanted to lose weight and feel better than I would have to work twice as hard.

My doctor said I probably should try to go gluten and dairy free because of some other things we talked about along with the thyroid problem. I did so, and I lost about 5 more lbs. However, I was still working out and making sure my body was in a calorie deficit so I’m not really sure if you can chalk that up to being from cutting gluten and dairy. People want to tell me I lost more weight because of the levothyroxine and to an extent, I agree. I agree that maybe it helped my metabolism and energy. However, I lost 15lbs to hard work and dedication to my body. The other 10lbs I believe was the same thing, I started running 30 mins everyday and doing ab workouts 2 x a week. I felt overall so happy with my body and motivation and being gluten and dairy free gave me the energy I needed. I believe I do have a slight intolerance to both. I began to feel like myself again.

Then, Mississippi hit, I went to Mississippi for a month and at first I was doing so well, eating in, doing good. But, the food got the best of me and I fell back into old habits. No I don’t believe “cheat meals” are bad or necessarily need to be even called a cheat. It’s just food. Food= fuel for your body. However, I think cake batter shakes from sonic necessarily aren’t the best fuel lol. I am excited though to get back into routine of eating clean when I get home.

Ultimately I think my thyroid levels are off again or something because I just don’t feel like myself. But since being home, I have been completely dairy free and limiting my gluten and I feel a lot better. However, I am a girl of routine and I could just feel better because I am back in my own house lol.

Society tells us we cannot brag on ourselves or we are boasting. However, I am so proud of myself. This takes a lot of courage to even post but I finally feel happy with myself and I am far from being done on this journey but I am at a place where I feel like I am happy with myself. Basically, this blog post though is to tell you how diet and exercise do have a huge impact on your body from a mental and physical point of view. I am incredibly pleased with my results over the past 6 months. I am 25 lbs down, and have gained so much self confidence.

Please take everything I say with a grain of salt. I am not a fitness guru and I am not an expert on weight loss or hypothyroidism. But, I am happy to share my journey with you.

If you like this post, please leave me a comment and if you have any questions I am on open book. Tell me what you would like to know.

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Arbonne experience

So..I recently tried Arbonne and I loved the experience.

First let me tell you about the fizz sticks. People, I crave them now more than I crave coffee and they are a natural energy which is amazing! Look at all this goodness underneath:

I love that they use green tea which is a natural caffeine plus Vitamin B is amazing for you! I tried citrus and blueberry and the citrus was my FAVORITE. Super yummy and the fizzy part of the drink is actually my favorite part. Makes you feel like you are drinking soda when you aren’t. Gimmeee all the fizz sticks!

Next I tried the detox bag which is supposed to:

I could tell in the morning I wasn’t as bloated and the taste was amazing. I drank it before bed and it didn’t keep me up at all. I actually feel like I had a more relaxing sleep. I used to use a lot of detox bags that would drastically make you sick. This detox bag was very gentle on the stomach which is amazing.

Digestion plus, I’m sure you can guess what this does but just in case:

I am trying to get into “gut health” because I’ve always had problems with my gut and this powder is tasteless, I put it in my flavored water and didn’t taste it at all which is amazing to me because I’ve tried a couple supplements like this that had a funny after taste. The facts about gut health are so interesting. Did you know your gut could be causing your anxiety? Might wanna give this a try!

Fiber boost….again probably self explanatory but the benefits of this is amazing especially for those of you that need the help in regulating your gut. I added it in my vanilla protein and it was daaaa bomb.

So unfortunately I hate chocolate but I had a friend try the chocolate protein and she said she loved It! I’m super sad I didn’t get to try the vanilla but I’m so happy my friend loved the chocolate! And if I loved chocolate this is how I would fix them:

Hope y’all loved my review of Arbonne! This was sponsored by @kiarashealthylife but opinions are 100% my own!

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Influencing 10k for God’s Kingdom

When you have a blog or social media with a good amount of followers you are called an “influencer.” Well I didn’t realize until this week that I needed to be influencing more people to have a relationship with God.

You know, when you go to church and they are talking DIRECTLY to you.. well yeah that happened to me! Side note: How could you not believe in a God when you go to church and they are talking about your life just as you needed to hear it.

So the big news….Wahoo I hit 10k followers!!! This is huge milestone in a blogger’s life. But the reason 10k means so much though is because Saturday at church, yes Saturday because your girl has been working every Sunday, our preacher began to speak about temptation. His sermon went a little different than I had thought it would. But boy did it make a difference. I felt God talking to me and God asking me, what am I going to do with 10k followers on Instagram?…

The preacher talked about influencing for God’s kingdom and how if we were only doing things for self gain then we are giving in to the kingdom of the world. I sent my husband this exact statement and a picture of the bible I had wrote in. It is so nice to have a partner to grow closer with God with. A friend, a spouse, or anyone (off topic, but seriously this man is my rock. I try to sleep in some Sunday’s and he is always there telling me to get up and go to church. If you knew how hard it was to get him to initially go to the Worship Center you would be laughing so hard.) I want to be that person for someone, I want to be that person telling people hey get up let’s go to church. What better way to influence 10k than by example, exactly what 1 Timothy 4:12 says. Being an example is what is going to lead people to God. From now on I am going to try to post more about God on my Instagram because like the preacher said, we need to influence for God’s Kingdom.

My idea for announcing 10k were those big 34 inch balloons to celebrate however, I kept thinking that was so impersonal. Well, I remembered a bible verse I used to love and live by as a kid; 1 Timothy 4:12 “Do not let anyone look down on you because you are young, be an example to all believers in your speech, in conduct, in your faith, and purity.” I immediately knew how I wanted to announce 10k. The big balloons seemed to be insufficient now. Well that’s because I wouldn’t be here without God. If He didn’t want me here it wouldn’t have allowed me to be where I am with my Instagram/Blog. Therefore, showing Him appreciation was the best thing I could do, and the only way I knew how was some good ole bible calligraphy.

This dress is from Chicwish and is linked below. The most comfortable and adorable dress for a wedding or any occasion. Fits large, order a size down.

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New Year Resolutions with SPEEDZTER

If you are like me, your New Year resolution is to get healthier and happier! I make this mine every year and somehow after like 3 weeks I fall off the wagon which is super annoying. NOT THIS YEAR!! I am so determined to do better this time. I have started planning what my goals are on paper and figuring out how to make those goals reality. One thing I have learned from blogging is that you have to have plans or your goals are just dreams.

One thing I am super excited to use in the gym or outside of the gym, is this Speedzter arm band! I tried it out on one of my morning runs and it kept my phone safe and secure the entire time. If you know me, you know I drop my phone all the time trying to hold it while I am working out. Speedzter makes it super easy to keep your phone in place and secure and their bands come in multiple colors and styles which makes it easy to pair your bands with your outfit!

My favorite part of the band is there is NO velcro! Velcro always itches my skin and never seems to be able to stay. These Speedzter arm bands are made from spandex to keep them up and tight on your arm the whole time!

To help get you started on your New Year resolutions, use code SIERRA for 25% off Speedzter arm band! h

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