Here we go, 3 years of marriage on July 20th, and turning 21 July 30th. Most of you are already thinking…wow they were/are so young. I cannot tell you enough how many times I got that once we got engaged, once we got married, and how many times I get it when other people ask how old I am. But why don’t we tell couples that are 28-30 anything about how hard marriage is? Do couples that are older not get divorced? I am pretty sure they do. A LOT of people will say that statistics show that younger couples don’t last. For sure, marriage is the hardest thing you will ever endure. I’ll be the first to tell you, it’s a roller coaster. Those couples you see on Instagram or Facebook that look like their marriage is perfect, It isn’t real. People only highlight the BEST moments in their life. No one talks about the bad stuff. This took a while for me to understand, I used to compare my relationship to things I saw on TV, social media, or in public. But, the truth is marriage is hard. People fight, people say things they don’t mean, & it is hard to live with someone that doesn’t see things exactly how you see them. Marriage is hard no matter the age. It probably is harder when you are both are still trying to find out who you are, but it most likely doesn’t get any easier if you wait till you are older. I’ve honestly grown up a lot faster than I thought I would….but that isn’t a bad thing, & I don’t regret a second of any of my decisions. Jarrett & I were able to pay off his truck, buy a house, do renovations on the house & go on a honeymoon to Hawaii all within 3 years. The most important thing in marriage is to have someone that brings out the best in you. I’ll tell you that Jarrett brings out the absolute best in me. He drives me insane sometimes, but for the most part he is seriously my rock. He encourages me to make good decisions with our finances, fitness, and has supported me throughout becoming a nurse, and a new passion of blogging. I’ve had people tell me that I would miss out on being young. Yes, I do miss my parents paying for all my bills lol but I don’t ever think I missed out on anything else. I knew from a young age, that Jarrett was my soul mate. We had lots of ups & downs but we never gave up on each other. That is exactly how I feel like most marriages are, a lot of ups & downs but the thing to overcome each of those ups & downs is to never give up. Jarrett and I both have grown a lot over the years. We have been through 2, 6 month deployments which made us so much stronger. The thing about growing is that you have to grow together and not apart. You can’t worry about the “what-ifs” & what others think. Moving to New Mexico is one of the greatest things that ever happened to our relationship. Neither of us had friends here at first, we had to rely on each other & it made us the best of friends. Your best friend should be your spouse. I tell Jarrett everything. If you tell me a secret, I’ll probably be telling Jarrett. Sorry haha. That doesn’t mean we don’t fight or argue. I’m pretty sure we pick on each other CONSTANTLY, but that is what makes life interesting. Being a wife, is one of my favorite things. One bible verse gets me through every time someone questions my age:
